We have all heard time and time again that obtaining a happy marriage requires work from the husband and wife.  You will have to resolve conflicts, learn to compromise, and so on.  However, let’s step back a minute and look at it from another perspective.  I submit to you that you should consider the fun factor when pursuing a happy marriage.  It doesn’t have to be all work and no play.  Have fun with each other!

Having fun and enjoying each other is just as important as all the work you put into managing the relationship.  Let me give you an illustration that I think about often.  If a person wanted to live a sinless life, then he would have to concentrate on all the sin that he should not commit.  He would not be any closer to righteousness if he managed to live without sin for a whole day.  However, if he concentrated on righteousness and pursued that instead, then he would be that much closer to righteousness.  So, instead of thinking about all the work you have to do in your marriage, just have fun and allow your relationship to grow in that environment so to speak.  Concentrate on the fun things you and your spouse can do together, and like in any relationship, you will grow as a couple in a good way.

Here are some things that you can do as a couple to have fun and grow your marriage to the state of happiness.

Joke Around With Each Other

I was watching YouTube videos the other day, and I came across this couple who created videos about how they pranked each other.  One time the woman put mousetraps in her man’s bed and poured some water on him to wake him up to the snapping sounds of mousetraps on his legs and arms.  He was not happy, but their relationship seems to be that strong where they can prank each other.  He pranked her by putting flour in the hairdryer so that when she used it to dry her hair after coming out of the shower, she would be sprayed with flour.  It was hilarious even though she wasn’t too happy.

Now, not everyone can get away with things like that, but it seemed to work for them.  Find ways that you can joke around and have fun with your spouse in normal everyday situations.  I do all kinds of things to my wife.  Yes.  I know that sometimes she is annoyed, but I can’t not try to have fun for fear of her reacting in an unexpected way.  Of course, if you find that your spouse has a very bad sense of humor, then perhaps you should find another way to have fun besides joking around.

Workout Together

I think it is a wonderful thing to workout with your spouse.  Of course, you both are realizing the benefits of working out, and your relationship is benefiting from working out together.  You can even make some of the exercises sex games like doing setups and kissing your spouse who is waiting for you at the top.  Have some fun getting fit with each other and watch your union grow that much stronger.

Working out together has other advantages.  For one thing, from a man’s perspective, it is kind of sexy to see your wife in workout clothes in sensual positions and movements, especially if she is wearing something that is revealing for your eyes only!  Anyway, workout together and enjoy life together as you get fit.

Fight Your Spouse

That’s right.  I said to fight your spouse.  What I mean is that you and your spouse can do something together where you are fighting playfully such as practicing your martial arts together, wrestling, light sparring, or a pillow fight.  You both can practice a martial art together, especially a grappling style, and have a great time with each other.

The point here is to have physical contact where you are grappling/wrestling or otherwise fighting each other playfully. Even a pillow fight should end with a wrestling match in the bed! Keep in mind that this only works if your spouse wants to do it or can take the physical contact.  Some people are rather fragile and won’t appreciate the contact involved in playfully fighting.


Dancing is a great activity for couples to have fun together because you are close to each other, and in some dances, you may be very intimately connected.  Some couples take dance classes together and build a close bond through dancing. Some ballroom dance styles for couples that you might consider are the waltz, various forms of swing, Cha-Cha-Cha (the martial arts great, Bruce Lee, was a Cha-Cha champion), and the Rumba.  Also consider the energetic Lindy-Hop, the Hustle, and many more.  Dancing together is a great way to spend quality time together and help to build a lasting bond and get some exercise in the process.

Amusement Park

Going to an amusement park and getting on crazy rides together can be a great way to build a lasting bond with your spouse and have fun at the same time.  I love roller coasters and my wife and I would get on them whenever we went to an amusement park.  You don’t have to get on crazy rides though, just as long as you are together having fun.  Consider a day trip to an amusement park close to you and go have some fun.


There are many games that you can play together or with a group and spend quality time together as well as have fun.  Playing games together just makes life together that much better in my opinion.  It builds a positive bond as two best friends would have.  You’re just having fun together, and that to me is priceless.

Below is a short list of some games that you and your spouse should consider.  You will notice that I indicated that you could cheat on a couple of them.  Of course, the point in playing games is not necessarily for competition, but rather for bonding through fun.  Cheating is a fun way to have fun. You’re not cheating to win, but rather to induce interaction with your spouse.  If you’re lucky, it could produce makeup sex later.

  • Bowling
  • Card games (and cheat)
  • Board games (and cheat)
  • Miniature Golf
  • One-on-One basketball

Outdoor activities

Going away and doing things outside together is an effective way to spend quality time together while you enjoy life and your relationship.  You can joke around, be sensual, have sex under moonlight, enjoy God’s creations together, and so much more.  Get outside and have some fun.  Below are a few activities you might consider.

  • Canoeing
  • Watersports
  • Camping
  • Hiking
  • Bike riding
  • Walking together on trails


Have fun with your spouse.  Find every opportunity to enjoy life together with your spouse and not think of marriage as merely working at a relationship.  Try to act like you are best friends and that will produce the environment for a lasting friendship to grow.  Friendships are not created by working together but through personal interaction. Interact with your spouse by having fun and enjoying life. The benefits for your relationship and household are numerous.

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